When things seemed as if they had gotten as bad as they could get, I asked my husband to move out. He insisted he was willing to do ANYTHING to work things out. I suggested we go to a counselor. The counselor once told Wayne that he was the one who brought the "baggage" into our marriage. That baggage was filled with the doubt and mistrust I felt, and he would have to learn to deal with it....after all he was the one who "packed" those bags. And 2 months after divorcing him, I realize that the baggage has been "left" with me. He has moved on in the physical sense, but how long will it take for me to unpack 10 years worth of luggage? And how will another man feel about this luggage when he isn't the one who packed it?
Of course I realize it is no relection on any other man, and that each one should be judged solely on his own actions. I just wonder how long it will take to empty all of the bags of the articles that were put in them for so many years. How will this impact my future relationships, and isn't it ironic that I am the one who got to keep this "baggage"after the divorce? Of all of the things I wanted the judge to grant me in the divorce, I don't remember this EVER being one of them.
I once read that trust takes a lifetime to build, but only a moment to destroy. That statement could not be more true.
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