How do you know if you are ready to date after a divorce? Now that is a hard question to answer. I look around me and see people who have waited years to enter another relationship, but I also see those who are already engaged to another within a year. I can't say that I believe I will ever be in the later category. It's hard to imagine being able to trust anyone else with my heart for starters.
People kept telling me to get back in the saddle as soon as possible. I have a lot to offer to the right person. Hmmm Well, I don't know that I've ever had any doubts about that one, but I am a little worried about what THEY have to offer me. After all...you get what you settle for...right?
I guess my biggest question was where do you start? Since I live in a fairly small town and don't really meet anyone at my workplace, what else does that leave? I've decided to do the unthinkable....online dating sites. Now this could definitely prove to be an adventure. My mother, who is very old school, once commented that she thought online dating was the worst of the worst. She commented how could you really know what the person was like. They could be saying anything. Lying about anything from their job to their motives. All true, but I have to ask....do you really know much more about a person if you met them say at the grocery store or local bar? Not really. People always seem to put on a good front in the beginning. You only truly find out about a person after getting to know them.
I decided to place an ad on 3 of the most popular dating sites. Although the sites highly encourage you to post pictures of yourself, I opted not to do that. I decided If I talked to someone for a while, and they seemed to be "real", then I would consider sending them a photo. I was very surprised at how many repsonses I got without having a picture. I did give an honest physical description, even including the fact that I "had a few extra pounds". I wasn't really expecting that to make men want to beat my door down.
I exchanged many emails with one seemingly nice man who had recently moved to town for work. He stated he would be living here now because of his work, but would eventually (maybe within a year) be moving back to the east coast. Oh well, not like I was really looking for anything serious at this point in time anyway. After exchanging many emails and chatting online, I decided to take the next step and text. Afterall, I could always change my number if need be...right? This is definitely a new concept in the dating realm for me. I didn't even HAVE a cell phone when I started dating my ex husband. But, apparently this is how it is done now. I decided I was going to give it a shot.
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